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Broken by battle, but never alone!

Some of you may or may not heard about what happened a few days ago near here in Lillington, NC. A young military wife took her children's lives and then her own while her husband was out of country. We often talk about twenty two soldiers a day taking their lives but another more silent group isn't thought of enough either. I watched a program a few years back on CNN. They were talking about families of our military who commit suicide. Mental illness is very real in our military communities. We really need to take care of our own. I personally know as many of my fellow spouses the hardships of deployments. We don't go to war no but we shoulder the fallout. We don't go to battle but who do you think is there for these brave men and women when they return home? Their families!! Often we have our own demons we silence to try to be strong for our service member, families, and community. I remember thinking I had to be strong, stoic, and able to handle hell in a handbag all while looking great with perfect kids. Life isn't perfect though. So please check on your friends, your neighbors, and even if they say they are OK still be there. Be annoying. We won't ask for help because we have become conditioned that strong military wives should have no problems handling being on their own. We are often lonely, stressed, overwhelmed, and need comfort. This shouldn't of happened. We also need to talk more about mental illness and don't just prescribe medication and send our wives on their way at the clinic. Counseling, community resources, and mentorship. As a veteran wife here I challenge other seasoned wives to take a younger one under your wing. We need to band together no matter our husband's rank or MOS. We can't lose another one of our sisters because we didn't check on her. She was struggling. I bet there were signs. No one was the wiser.

Please share this. I want this message shared. We can't lose another one like this. I am praying that she found peace that she desperately sought in life and I know her babies are with God. I am praying for her husband. As a community we have to do something.

With Earthbound doulas, we can help several families in the postpartum period and even if we can't we will know someone who can! Please know that we see every women as a sister and we want you to know you ARE NEVER ALONE. We will stand by to support you in any situation!